A person faulted me for not acting quickly enough (in his estimation) to do what I said I wished to do. He treated me with disdain, accusing me of being all talk and no action. Subsequent to his shameless mistreatment of me, he cornered me and coerced me to name the date that I would begin courting clients and go about the business of my work. I was not ready to take action yet I took his bait. This person offered me no good will yet I felt I had to prove myself.

Shakespeare wrote: The native hue of resolution is sicklied o’er with the pale cast of thought and enterprises of great pith and moment, with this regard, their currents turn awry and lose the name of action. (Hamlet: Act 3, Scene 1) We can spend too much time in our heads, inventing scenarios, taking action only when we feel in control. But control is an illusion because the outcome is never assured. And we find ourselves ruminating, making up fantasies about how we think the situation might unfold–favorably or unfavorably–and taking all painstaking possibilities into account.

What did I need in order to be ready to act? I needed a plan of action that included anticipated consequences. Being premature undermines my progress as much as hesitation does. I needed to be able to answer three questions: What do I offer? What are the outcomes? And why should someone listen to me? Finally, I needed to be prepared to discuss the particular interests of those whom I would serve and how I would address them.

Two months after my conversation with that disdainful fellow, I was as ready as I was ever going to be. Any consequences that would transpire would warrant responses one step at a time. Kind and knowledgeable people who had my best interests at heart supported me. I was ready to co-create a transformative experience with people with whom I shared a vision.

What are you waiting to do? What must happen for you to be ready? Are you spinning your wheels, waiting for a feeling of control? Understand what you need in order to be ready so that you do not merely play at life but, with STRENGTH and POWER, live it.

If you are stuck on a merry-go-round of possibilities and wish to be ready to take action, Contact me, Vanessa Landau, Resiliency Trainer, for Co-Creative Transformation (Resiliency Coaching) and I will guide you in decision-making and goal-achievement.

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