Posts tagged Optimal Experience Strategies

Find G.O.D. Now


Religion is a sticky subject in polite company. Conjecture and discussions about God, commandments, heaven and salvation, hell and damnation, and endless interpretations can be divisive. Sometimes people need so desperately to feel correct on such matters that they seek to persuade others to their point of view, thus affirming their religion.

I believe that there are as many religious paths as there are people and at best we can inquire into the common ground between and among us. In my opinion, GOD is a three-letter word for what a person elevates in righteousness (worships) in spirit and/or life, and we see this not so much in congregational worship as we do in day-to-day action.

Some people elevate money. Some elevate food. Some elevate sex. Some elevate drugs. Some elevate work. Some elevate principles and teachings. Some elevate their own mind. Some elevate nature. Some elevate cynicism. Some elevate power over others. Some elevate service, or power with others.

Whom or what do you worship? Is there harmony between your spirit/life and your congregational professions? We fail at times in the alignment of our spirit/life, and our word and action. Sometimes we are blatantly hypocritical. But do we see it? Do we acknowledge it and self-correct?

Some do not believe in God and may not invest in traditional faith at all. To you I offer the perspective that simply applies to human endeavors: G.O.D.–Guidance, Opportunity, Deliverance–impacts all manner of activity. Who or what guides you? What opportunities invite you? What do circumstances deliver?


If you wish to align your spirit/life and your word and action in order to more effectively respond to challenges, hardships, and adversities, please Contact me, Vanessa Landau, Resiliency Trainer, for Co-Creative Transformation (Resiliency Coaching), and I will guide you in the development of your own optimal experience strategies.

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The Big “O”



I aspire to have The Big “O” every day. Even though every day is different, having The Big “O” guarantees that I will have the best of all possible days. I believe that if everyone had The Big “O” every day, the world would be a more satisfying place in which to live. When was the last time you enjoyed The Big “O”?


Wait! What do you think I am talking about?!? “Optimal” is The Big “O”! Living optimally on a daily basis is the surest way to create a satisfying life. It enables us to have the best of all possible days. What does “optimal” mean?…Merriam-Webster defines it as the “best or most effective…most desirable or satisfactory” given all the conditions.


In a culture that exalts perfection and relegates second-best to losing, keeping perspective on our optimal experience can be challenging. When we make decisions based on all the information that we can discover, we prepare for an OPTIMAL EXPERIENCE. When we attend to our vision for progress, we prepare for an OPTIMAL EXPERIENCE. When we confront an undesirable outcomes, we evaluate our circumstances and learn from them; we prepare for an OPTIMAL EXPERIENCE.


Sometimes we encounter victories, and sometimes we encounter disappointments, even failures. In order to shape our OPTIMAL EXPERIENCE, we must understand and invest in our personal best. Whatever the circumstances beyond our control, we must assume the control that is within our means, because everything in our lives can be improved by The Big “O”.


Measure your value of your decisions and endeavors in terms of your personal best. If you wish to discover a better approach to OPTIMAL EXPERIENCE, please Contact me, Vanessa Landau, Resiliency Trainer, for Co-Creative Transformation (Resiliency Coaching) and I will guide you developing your own optimal experience strategies.

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Ambivalence, Resignation, Or Creative Discontent

Veterans, Returning Citizens (formerly called Ex-offenders), and Mental Health Consumer/Survivors experience a transition between a controlled environment and civilian life. The adjustment period poses challenges, some more difficult than others. Whatever the differences between these populations and among individuals within them, the transition and, more specifically, the process of adjustment impacts the trajectory of resiliency.

Resiliency Fitness status differs from one person to the next and, for the same person, from one situation to the next. For example, I am a wiz at adapting to an unexpected change of plans but I have difficulty expressing my displeasure with friends and loved ones.

Declines in status may be met by resignation, ambivalence, or creative discontent with disadvantage and the motivation to thrive. And intermediate status may provide a latency period in which, despite appearing inactive, we are actually cultivating our adaptation skills.

Think of a life predicament and figure out your Resiliency Fitness status:

  • Delinquency… We exhibit misbehavior or willful negligence that indicates the rejection of recovery and resiliency, and that harms both self and other (e.g., aggression, vengeance, dishonesty, injustice/crime, addiction);
  • Succumbing… We buckle under the strain of distress that prevents the progress in recovery and resiliency or indicates a reversal in recovery and resiliency (e.g., regression, depression, struggling or stuck, exhaustion);
  • Impairment… We experience a deterioration of coping with distress that indicates an inconsistent level of functioning and uncharacteristic negative changes in attitude, thought, mood, or behavior; overwhelmed);
  • Languishing… We survive with low expectations for recovery and resiliency, tolerating a lackluster existence. We remain risk-averse and tolerate mediocrity lest we upset the seemingly tenuous balance of the status quo;
  • Synthesis… We enjoy stability that indicates successful development of recovery and resiliency, and that enables measured advances in personal mastery; and
  • Thriving… We flourish and prosper with a vitality that encourages calculated risks for the sake of continued personal mastery and indicates the appreciation of challenges.


The keys to recovery and resiliency—the Optimal Experience Strategies of strength, endurance, power, flexibility, balance, grace and so on—inform our practice on the spectrum of Resiliency Fitness status. Resiliency Fitness status differs from one person to the next and, for the same person, from one situation to the next. Declines in status may be met by resignation, ambivalence, or creative discontent. And intermediate status may provide a latency period in which, despite appearing inactive, we are actually cultivating maturity and discipline in order to advance recovery and resiliency.

In order to do so, we proactively develop internal and external resources. Of all the internal resources we can cultivate, maturity and discipline are the most broadly applicable to all situations and perhaps the most challenging to develop. What are the good habits that shape your maturity and discipline?

If you desire better strategies for coping with the crests and shallows of life, please Contact me, Vanessa Landau, Resiliency Trainer, for Co-Creative Transformation–Resiliency Coaching–and I will guide you in the development of personal mastery.

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